Tomorrow we're going to a prison in Arkansas. Not to stay, just to visit.
We will be going to visit a 1st cousin who is 6 months out from being released from a 3-year term. I've always wanted to post about him, his family, and the reality of where pornography can take you, but I've always hesitated. Out of privacy, out of respect, but mostly out of not having a clue where to start.
Where can I start? It's complicated, and even those people closest to him (mom, sister, wife, daughter) will more than likely never understand how something like this could have happened to them.
But in case you haven't figured this out, being an adult isn't always pretty. Along with the territory comes some very adult problems. Unfortunately, there are hardly ever very simple answers.
When Brad & I first heard the news of the arrest, shock consumed my body. It's the only time I can say with certainty that I was knocked to my knees. I couldn't stand. It was the only logical place to go. We questioned God. Why? How? What now?
Our questions were not answered immediately of course. We'll likely never understand - but one thing we were completely clear on.
Love him. Support him. Don't leave him.
So we've tried to be there for him, his wife, and his daughter. Living in different states makes that a little more difficult than we would like it to be, but we've made it abundantly clear to him and his wife that we will love them through this no matter what.
I'm not sure what tomorrow will be like. Brad has tried to describe it to me in order to prepare me a little bit. I don't know what to expect exactly, but I am looking forward to seeing him and telling him how much we love him.