Friday, August 13, 2010


Tomorrow we're going to a prison in Arkansas.  Not to stay, just to visit. 

We will be going to visit a 1st cousin who is 6 months out from being released from a 3-year term.  I've always wanted to post about him, his family, and the reality of where pornography can take you, but I've always hesitated.  Out of privacy, out of respect, but mostly out of not having a clue where to start. 

Where can I start?  It's complicated, and even those people closest to him (mom, sister, wife, daughter) will more than likely never understand how something like this could have happened to them

But in case you haven't figured this out, being an adult isn't always pretty.  Along with the territory comes some very adult problems.  Unfortunately, there are hardly ever very simple answers. 

When Brad & I first heard the news of the arrest, shock consumed my body. It's the only time I can say with certainty that I was knocked to my knees.  I couldn't stand.  It was the only logical place to go.  We questioned God.  Why?  How?  What now? 

Our questions were not answered immediately of course.  We'll likely never understand - but one thing we were completely clear on. 

Love him.  Support him.  Don't leave him. 

So we've tried to be there for him, his wife, and his daughter.  Living in different states makes that a little more difficult than we would like it to be, but we've made it abundantly clear to him and his wife that we will love them through this no matter what

I'm not sure what tomorrow will be like.  Brad has tried to describe it to me in order to prepare me a little bit.   I don't know what to expect exactly, but I am looking forward to seeing him and telling him how much we love him. 


Peggy said...

Amy, you have always amazed me with your words and caring power something I don't think I'll be able to do even if I were as young as you are and still had time ( I know we don't have a clue when that will be). I don't guess we will ever know why but from an aunt of this young man "Thank You" both for loving him and sticking by him something I can't or won't do guess I have too many ghost in my past to just let go and do and that is something I worry about alot even knowing I'll have to answer to God one of these days just why. I do love him and pray things will not be to hard for him and his family when he gets home. Once again "Thanks" you are truly one of Gods people.

Jennifer said...

We will be praying for y'all as you go tomorrow, and for him and his family as they prepare for yet another transition.